Expectations

"When are you going to finish school?" "When are you going to let your mom retire so she can move to California?" "You're not focused." 

Whenever I see my family from California or family friends I haven't seen in quite awhile, I always get confronted with these questions or comments. All my life, I've had people set expectations for me. Of course, there's nothing wrong with your loved ones wanting what's best for you. But, the most important question I wish they would ask, "Are you happy?" 

With those expectations from loved ones, it came with a lot of insecurities and self doubt.

Me being the person I am, I was willing to follow whatever my mom wanted for me. I wanted to be the daughter my mom would be proud of. I was very active in my church community and taught kids about my God. Those kids were one of the reasons why I wanted to pursue nursing. I have a passion for wanting to take care of people. 

Imagine living a life being able to pursue a career that you never thought you would. This career is not only something you're good at, but you're passionate about it. But, if your family and family friends knew about it, then they would discourage you. They would put pressure on you and redirect you into their own careers. 

This imagination is a reality for me. A year ago, I was a nursing student who worked part time. Now, I work full time building my career into something more and I couldn't be happier. While working full time, it has allowed me to work on my personal growth. 

I took a break from nursing school, to focus on myself and see where my life takes me. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with that. I feel like as individuals, we need to learn to reevaluate things in our life. Don't get me wrong, I still want to pursue a career in nursing, but just not at the moment. 

I just want to be free from people's expectations of me. I don't live up to other's expectations, as I have my own. I want to be able to give back, build content, inspire others, and live my life with no regrets. I don't want to regret missing opportunities in my life. I can say I'm happy with my life choices. I know my life is filled with purpose and direction. As long as you have that, don't let anyone stop you from chasing your passions. 

A few days ago, I attended a workshop and I met someone who I came across a year ago. She told me she wasn't aware of my interest in building up my career and I told her myself I didn't expect it either. But hey, the best things in life happen unexpectedly.  I knew I was destined for greatness. It led me to meet some inspiring individuals who have allowed me to grow into my truest self. Through this career, I have seen myself rise from the lows to the highs. I grew so much mentally. 

All I want to do now, is continue to grow into my best self. There are so much opportunities that I'm willing to chase, and conquer. I am happy to know that my parents are willing to support me in whatever I do.

To those who feel pressured to pursue a career you love, do whatever makes you happy. Don't let anyone dictate you on how you're suppose to live your life. In life, you will have people who will discourage you, while others will motivate and support you. It's always important to remember why you started in the first place and to keep on making moves.