Healing Process
“How do you manage to heal from a broken heart, Angel?”
Moving on takes a lot of time and patience. But most of all, it starts with yourself.
If there’s anything I’ve truly learned from my past loves, it’s that they were not meant to be my “forever.” Honestly, that’s okay. They taught me what I truly wanted and needed in a significant other. With every heart break, I learned to know my worth and love myself. To love the flaws and imperfections that I have and to stay positive through the rough times. I believe the heart break that I’ve gone through molded me into the best version of myself. It pushed me to be better, chase my dreams, and do what I love.
I've loved and lost, but I found myself in the process. But, I believe losing someone isn't truly a loss. Instead, they were a blessing or lesson in my life.
If there's something I've learned from having a broken heart, it's okay to not be okay. You're human. It's okay to cry it all out. The most important part about wanting to heal is accepting what is and what was. Accepting that some people are not meant to stay in your life. They've played a part in your life as a blessing or a lesson. Know that it is not the end of the world. You have the ability to make a difference and live with a purpose.
After my breakup with my first boyfriend five years ago, I became active in my youth ministry. I turned my pain into purpose. I was able to take part in camps for new members, and gave talks about how God has made a difference in my life. I always dreamed of becoming apart of music ministry and making a difference. But more than anything, I was living my dream of being a voice for others. My faith saved me, God saved me. He showered my life with passion and purpose.
I had the opportunity to teach the kids ministry, and I was so happy. I was so passionate about teaching the kids, most especially because they were filled with so much joy and a creative mindset. I always made sure the kids were learning and having a good time. Seeing their smiles, made me smile 10x more. They are the reason of the many reasons why I am chasing my dreams. They inspire me each and everyday to live my life with purpose and passion.
When it came to my breakup with my second boyfriend, I blamed myself for it. But in the end, I didn't do anything wrong. I did everything I could to be the best girlfriend I could be. And that's what truly matters. I'm thankful for the good times and bad. Because they made me realize what I truly deserve. Now, I'm happy with how things are going in my life. I feel better about myself and realizing my worth each and everyday. Doing the things I love, for the ones I love.
It takes time to heal from a broken heart, but it's important to realize that you will love again. You just have trust in the process. Have patience, because that special someone could be closer than you think. Always remember that a special love worth having, is worth waiting for.
While that has not happened yet, take the opportunity to self reflect. Think about things you've been wanting to do. Fulfill them. Do whatever so makes you happy. Spend time with loved ones. Travel to places you've never been, and open your mind to new adventures that await you. Rebuild yourself, fro yourself. Time and time again, I've told myself that I don't want to love anymore. But, I feel that the pain that was brought upon me, has strengthened me emotionally and spiritually. Not only that, but it allowed me to set my standards high, and save my heart out for the person who deserves it.
Remember. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)